Even though the news of Kim Kardashian's split came as a shock to nobody, and has become old news, after watching the season finale of Kourtney and Kim Take New York, I noticed some familiar elements and feelings I wanted to reflect on.
Millions were furious by her decision to end her marriage to Kris Humphries after 72 days, and took it as as such a disrespectful act to marriage, that you would have thought she was breaking off a marriage with the whole country. Even though I don't really have strong feelings either way, after watching her show and listening to what she and her sisters had to say, I began to wonder how different I really was from her.
I'm not sure whether her marriage is fake or not, but assuming that it wasn't staged for money/publicity, it seems as though the only thing she is guilty of is moving too fast and not using her head properly. (and it's not like any of us have EEVVEER been guilty of this).
As many of her family members mentioned, she got so caught up in the fairytale of things, that she took a huge leap of faith, thinking she would get everything she wanted, and it turned out she was wrong. But doesn't she deserve some credit for boldly going after what she felt she wanted?
When thinking about people like myself, young professionals, and our post grad lives, I wonder if we aren't guilty of the same things or feelings. With every new opportunity that comes your way, you have to consider the pros and cons, and whether it is something that you truly feel is meant to be, and will be beneficial to your life. I mean, how much do we really know what we want at this stage in life anyway? We are young, and while we think we know what we want to do, FOREVER, after a couple months we start to re-consider, kind of like Kim. So what do you do?
The truth is, in these times and this economy, you should be grateful for whatever progressive path you are on. However, it's never that simple. We always want more. Which is supposed to be good? Right? So how are we supposed to know when to make the serious committment, or when to jump ship?
Personally, I want to do everything! So it's very frustrating to determine what I want to be doing long term, and commit to it. I am guilty of thinking I have found the perfect career path, and then getting into it and freaking out. After working hard for four years, I don't want to be stuck in a miserable job for the rest of my life. However, I feel like when I seize an opportunity, I should get credit for that ambition, whether it's forever or not.
Suggestions for Overcoming Doubt:
- Start a Job Journal or Internship/Grad School Journal- This could be kept daily, weekly, or even bi-weekly. Include things like: What do you like/dislike? What have you learned? What do you hope to learn? Skills you have developed and hope to continue to develop...plans to advance..? This will allow you to feel more motivated about what you're doing and make a better decision.
- Consider finding a mentor in the field you are in, or somebody in the field you are thinking of moving to. If you are having doubts about your future or career path, talk to somebody who has more experience in where you want to be.
- Talk to Co-Workers or Managment: If you feel yourself struggling in a position talk to your boss. Often times they don't want you to be unhappy, and would like to know better ways to manage you, and keep you around as an employee. Discuss doubts and concerns with them, and even co-workers. They could have been feeling similarly at one point and know how to overcome it.
- Find a hobby/side project- If you are in a new job, or internship, or school and you feel as though you just don't have the luxury of quitting, then search for things to do on the side! There is no point in being miserable, so look for a project on the side that requires some of the skills you wish you could work in. This could include volunteering, joining a grad chapter of your organization, free-lance work, anything! This will make you feel fulfilled, not to mention will increase experience and connections.
- Follow Your Heart- Ultimately, if you are unhappy or unfulfilled, you need to follow your heart. It may not come with the approval or everybody, but where are they when you are sitting somewhere miserable and alone? They are living their lives. Make the smart, and resposible moves into changing your path and take the chance.
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